Not for herself, mind you. No, the actress, who has been single nearly two years since breaking up with her long-time beau, actor Stuart Townsend, is perfectly happy to be on her own, thank you very much.
But she’s beyond excited to be heading up to northern California to join the wedding party of a best friend.
“It’s incredible,” Theron says. “I’m a bridesmaid; her brother is her maid of honor!”
And if this bridesmaid is never a bride, well, that’s OK with her.
“I’ve never wanted to get married so I don’t get nostalgic about that,” she explains. “I want a long-term relationship, which I guess is what marriage is. But I don’t have the dream of the wedding and the dress and all of that.”
The actress curls up in black slacks and a black-striped top at a West Hollywood studio, as she unwinds after being photographed for this story. With flawless skin and smoky citrine eyes, she is — without even trying — one of the screen’s great beauties, a throwback to the cool-blonde allure of Hollywood legends like Grace Kelly and Kim Novak.
But despite her movie-star sheen, there is nothing too glossy about Theron in person. At 36, she seems self-assured and at ease with her place, not just in Hollywood, but in her very independent life.
She’s made about 30 films in 15 years, including memorable hits (The Italian Job, Hancock) and spectacular misses (Aeon Flux, The Astronaut’sWife). And while she’s grateful for her success — she won an Oscar and Golden Globe award for playing serial killer Aileen Wournos in 2003′s Monster while still in her 20s — she’s not overly impressed by her celebrity.
“There’s a shy part of me that people are always shocked by,” she says. “I’m really good in groups of 10. People go, ‘You don’t like going up on stage [at events]?’ And I’m like, ‘No, I want to puke.’ ”
Which makes her a far cry from the woman she portrays in the movie Young Adult, a dark comedy that opens nationwide Friday. In it, she plays a 37-year-old ex-prom queen and quasi-successful teen book author who lazes about her messy Minneapolis apartment watching reality TV and wondering why her life hasn’t amounted to more. Depressed, narcissistic, alcoholic and alone, she heads home to small-town Mercury, Minn., to rekindle a romance with her high-school boyfriend (Patrick Wilson), a happily married new father.
Despite this cringe-inducing behavior, Theron understands the pressures that face a single woman in her mid-30s.
“The great surprise is how other people respond to it,” she says with an ironic laugh. “They are more in a panic over it than I am. Sometimes you get wind of someone saying something about [having] children or being married. If you don’t have that sorted out [at my age], society kind of worries for you. We want to believe that has changed, but it hasn’t.”
Theron knows she isn’t alone here. “I’ve seen it with other women — this obsession with people like Jennifer Aniston. I feel bad for her. I don’t think she was ever in a panic about [not having kids]. Other people go into a panic about it. I get some of that — sometimes even from friends. It’s funny because I’m really enjoying this process of my life right now. It’s not that things haven’t worked out. I chose to leave my relationship. Nobody put a gun to my head. I’m living this life right now by choice.”
A small-town girl herself, Theron describes her early years in Benoni, South Africa, as turbulent. “Everybody knew my dad was an alcoholic which played a part in how kids behaved towards me. Kids are mean about stuff like that. So I always felt like an outsider — you walk around with a lot of shame you shouldn’t have to carry because it has nothing to do with you.” (Things turned tragic when she was 15 and her mother shot her enraged father, killing him in self-defense.)
Winning a modeling competition at 16 was her ticket out of the turmoil. With her mom in tow, she moved to Milan and traveled throughout Europe modeling. After a year, they moved to New York, then Miami, and in 1994 they hit L.A. where she soon made a small splash in Tom Hanks’ first directorial effort, That Thing You Do!
Theron credits her mother, Gerta, for keeping her humble. “She loves it when I call my job ‘work,’ ” Theron says with an accompanying eye roll. “She’s like, ‘Really? Have you been in the mines? Because that’s work.’ ” [See "Mother knows best" below.] Today, mother and daughter live “two minutes” apart.
Theron appears to have learned her lessons well. As Young Adult screenwriter Diablo Cody attests, “Charlize is not entitled at all. She’s incredibly down to earth. If I looked like her, I would be a raving egomaniac.”
If anything, the actress looks back on her younger years with refreshing perspective. “My 20s felt really rushed,” she says. “I couldn’t get there fast enough. You are filled with angst in your 20s. You’re trying to find your place in the world. Now, but it’s so different. I actually enjoyed each experience way more than I did back then.”
She smiles knowingly, then adds, “I don’t worry so much anymore. The older you get, the less you sweat the small stuff. All my girlfriends and I talk about this. I wouldn’t want to go back to my 20s. I’m in a really nice place where I can enjoy the moment for what it is. My 30s have been about taking it as it comes. I have this complete openness to whatever is coming my way.”
More than anything, she’s pleased and proud that she’s lived life fully and for herself. Concludes the actress: “I really lived my life the way I wanted to — mistakes and all.”
Walking outside to her black SUV, Theron can’t wait to get back to her new loves. Though earlier this year, she was linked romantically to Ryan Reynolds, the most important males in her life at the moment are the two rescue dogs she adopted recently, a pit bull named Blue and a border terrier mix, Berkeley. If she has her way, she and her mom will spend the holidays quietly at home this year “with my two new boys.”
For now, that’s about as domestic as Charlize Theron is planning to get.
Source: USA Today